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Being Agreeable When I Disagree

Agree to disagree used to be helpful.  Congenial, even.  Not simply acknowledging a difference of opinions but it came with the idea of “putting aside” those differences for the sake of unity.  For peaceful living.  What seems to motivate many (individuals, groups, whole camps) today is truly disagreeing.  Even if there’s common ground to be found, it is the disagreeing points that become the focus, the agenda and, often, where many find their identity. 

It can be draining.  For the non-confrontational ones, it can make you want to retreat and hibernate inside….much the same way these howling winter winds do!  What is a Christian to do?  Two (very quick) thoughts.


Ephesians 4:3   “Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”   Where we are able…we need to be the influence for peace.  This atmosphere of constant division and disagreement – for the sake of argument – should not permeate our church, our Bible study, our fellowship groups and certainly not into our homes.  We can share different opinions and still love another.  We can get along and celebrate – focus on – common goals.  Especially in our homes, we often have the greatest influence to set the tone and mood.  Let’s create calm retreats from the bickering world around us!

Matthew 5:16a   “Let your light so shine before men…”  There are plenty of places where we have much less influence.  Nevertheless, we are called upon to be a reflection of Christ – to offer peace, love for others, patience and forbearance (even with those with whom we do not agree).  It is not always easy but we are to do our part to make a difference.  Ask God to help you shine before all those you interact with each day…and then recharge in the safe haven at home each evening!

These were my quick (five-minute) thoughts this morning on the prompt:  Agree.  Join the others at Five Minute Friday….and have a peace-filled weekend.

6 thoughts on “Being Agreeable When I Disagree

  1. We were thinking on similar lines today! It's so true that if we can love and respect those we disagree with it makes an impact for God as it reflects his light into a situation.

  2. Jennifer, I too was thinking along the same lines as you and you have said it so beautifully! It makes me sad to see that disagreeing loudly seems to have overtaken our world! Love your scripture inspiration! Great post, your almost neighbor at #fmf, Cindy

  3. Thank you, Jennifer, for your succinct explanation of what we are to do in a world, a culture that is constantly at odds. I know our work for the Lord is to spread the good news unto all the world, and that includes online. It comes at a cost, true, but we are called to be separate as well, to not be drawn to the unfruitful works of darkness. There is so much darkness out there, so much confusion. I'm glad Christ doesn't expect me to approach this world on moral or human relativism. I can see the truth as written in His word without doubting it's validity because He matters first and foremost. I don't have to live regretting whether someone likes me or not after I disagree with them. It's liberating to live in Christ because he breaks the chains of those in bondage to group-think. Thanks for this thoughtful piece!

  4. This connects so perfectly with what I wrote about, Jennifer — and thanks so much for coming to "my place" to read my post, too! "Calm retreats from the bickering world": I love that bit because such retreats are so essential. Yet also having the courage to speak out for justice in a redemptive way is essential too. Maybe we need to cultivate that inner quietness that isn't rocked by the world around us, so that we can speak from a place of real peace and truth.

  5. Great verses, Jennifer!

    There were a few nights during the 2016 election season when the conversation in my Bible study group got tense. I had to consistently remind myself (and then remind the people I was teaching) that we can disagree on how to solve issues and how to vote, but that we need to remember that we're family in Christ.

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