Birthdays are kind of a big deal. Not everyone celebrates them the same way. No doubt, not everyone feels the same about marking another year. But, at our house, birthdays are cause for celebrating. To show our love and acknowledge the gift that each person is to the little group that we call family! Like most families, we have our little traditions for making birthdays more than “just another day” for whoever is celebrating. We look forward to birthdays.
But some birthdays are hard. Tomorrow will be our Tyler’s birthday. He would be 25. Twenty-five. How can that be? It has taken several birthdays to find what felt comfortable or seemed “right” to acknowledge the special day when God gave us Tyler. We could never just let the day slip by but celebrating was hard, in different ways, for all of us. But as with all things that have challenged our hearts through grief, God has been faithful. We have learned to laugh again. We have found joy in the every day things and reason to celebrate the special days as well. God has caused my heart to sing again. Just yesterday morning during my quiet time, He reminded me of just that.
Psalm 126: 2 “Then was our mouth filled with laughter, and our tongue with singing: then said they among the heathen, The Lord hath done great things for them.”
He has done great things. He will continue to do great things. Tomorrow I will have reason to rejoice….as I remember Tyler and the day I became his mom!!
6 Replies to “Birthdays Can Be Hard”
Oh Jennifer. xo
The only children I've lost was through miscarriage, so they never had a true birthday.
How did you get to a "right" way to celebrate Tyler? Did you create a new way to celebrate?
Thank you for sharing your heart.
Cheryl, thanks for stopping by….as far as celebrating, the last few years we have gone to a paint your own pottery shop together as a family. I have no idea how we stumbled on this (not something that is the norm for us which might be what makes it nice…) but we just spend the afternoon together. No pressure or expectations. It took us awhile to find what worked for everyone and we certainly had to keep trying.
Sending hugs your way!
Thanks so much!! God truly blessed –