A Sense of Community

Father Knows Best.  Leave It to Beaver.  I Love Lucy.  Maybe you liked these tv shows.  Maybe not.  Some of you don’t even know what shows I talking about:)  But these shows, in many ways, characterize my life growing up.  The women that surrounded me were, well, very similar.  I only knew one mom who worked outside the home – and that was in the school cafeteria.  I wasn’t aware of single moms, teenage mothers or any number of other home situations different from my own.  I feel very blessed for the influence of my mom, as well as the other moms who created our community.  All of the women were, indeed, a community.  Whether at the mailbox, while pushing the stroller for a walk, or over coffee at the kitchen table these women encouraged and supported one another.

I know homes and communities are vastly different today.  In fact, it is the uniqueness of each family that creates a sense of home today – much as similarity did for me.  Roles for women have certainly grown and evolved.  But, I believe, women still look for and even need a sense of community.

Here are my five-minute thoughts on this week’s FMF prompt:  women

All women seek community.  Other women that form a sense of fellowship.  Somewhere to share interests, goals, and ideas.  To teach and to learn from.  This type of community benefits body, soul and spirit.  I see evidence of this everywhere – even at the assisted living.  Those who engage in the activities and interact with the other residents do so much better – emotionally, mentally and even physically – than those who remain more isolated.  This is also a Bible principle.  Titus 2 is directed at women, of all ages, learning from and teaching other women.  We are to be connected and part of a community.

Being engaged with other women is more and more of a challenge.  Demands are many and time for “simply” connecting seems elusive.  But it needs to be a priority.  Three thoughts on creating community with other women:

1 – Don’t accept substitutes.  At least, not on a regular basis.  A text, Facebook message or other social media drop-in have their place, but they cannot replace genuine conversation and fellowship with others.  It might seem like you are connected, or in touch, but it is not the same.

2 – Be purposeful.  Don’t just hope the time will come – make it happen.  Invite others – whether to your house or somewhere else.  Whether for a full evening at dinner or for 20 minutes over coffee.  It is surprising….if you invite them, women will (find time and) come:)

3 – Look outside your circle.  All women want to be included.  And, as women, we tend to flock together.  There is nothing wrong with having a “bestie” or a close group, but be careful not to be exclusive.  And certainly, don’t judge a book by its cover – or assume someone would not want to be included.  Reach out to someone older, younger, or just “different”!  Wonderful friendships have been made this way!

There are several other thoughts – encouragements for fellowship – running through my thoughts.  But, five minutes fly by!  How do you stay purposefully connected?

10 thoughts on “A Sense of Community

  1. It is interesting how different it is to see someone in person than it is to text them. My wife and I, while dating, would text all the time and see each other every few weeks. When we met, I always thought it was interesting the difference in her tone and inflection from what I had imagined over text. You're right, something beats face to face!

  2. Wonderful thoughts on creating community with other women. I realized a few years ago that most of my Christian community is made up of stay-at-home moms while I am a working mom. I have to be more purposeful to make time to spend with them, but I still treasure these friendships.

  3. I agree, that kind of community is so important! And your tips are great- it is something we need to be intentional about doing- it's not just going to happen! There is so much to be gained from having friends of different ages and with different experiences of life too- we can learn a lot from one another!

  4. Not just women!

    Being housebound, and having no friends close enough to visit, my community is canine…and I am becoming more like them.

    Not a bad thing. As a human, I was kind of a dead loss. They get me; they don't resent the cancer that's killing me, and they don't try to raise false hope or give dark commiseration. They're up for the fun we can have today, or, if not, while I lie in a foetal position and weep, they'll cuddle around me.

    #1 at FMF this week.


    1. Andrew, you are correct! Not just women! We are all meant for community…and need to be mindful for those who are housebound and many others who are unable to engage as easily and freely as they might wish. Thanks for the reminder!!

  5. God has been so gracious to me through the years. Because we have moved several times and because of the nature of our ministry, missionaries I have had the honor to have a close friend in each place. Sometimes it took a while to know which one would the one God wanted me to buddy up with but each time there was someone individually and then a group of women around for me to love on and them love on me. GREat post.

    1. What a blessing – to have a close friend in each place. Community certainly does not have to be huge….which is good. I'm much more of a "small community" girl!

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