Father Knows Best. Leave It to Beaver. I Love Lucy. Maybe you liked these tv shows. Maybe not. Some of you don’t even know what shows I talking about:) But these shows, in many ways, characterize my life growing up. The women that surrounded me were, well, very similar. I only knew one mom who worked outside the home – and that was in the school cafeteria. I wasn’t aware of single moms, teenage mothers or any number of other home situations different from my own. I feel very blessed for the influence of my mom, as well as the other moms who created our community. All of the women were, indeed, a community. Whether at the mailbox, while pushing the stroller for a walk, or over coffee at the kitchen table these women encouraged and supported one another.
I know homes and communities are vastly different today. In fact, it is the uniqueness of each family that creates a sense of home today – much as similarity did for me. Roles for women have certainly grown and evolved. But, I believe, women still look for and even need a sense of community.
Here are my five-minute thoughts on this week’s FMF prompt: women
All women seek community. Other women that form a sense of fellowship. Somewhere to share interests, goals, and ideas. To teach and to learn from. This type of community benefits body, soul and spirit. I see evidence of this everywhere – even at the assisted living. Those who engage in the activities and interact with the other residents do so much better – emotionally, mentally and even physically – than those who remain more isolated. This is also a Bible principle. Titus 2 is directed at women, of all ages, learning from and teaching other women. We are to be connected and part of a community.
Being engaged with other women is more and more of a challenge. Demands are many and time for “simply” connecting seems elusive. But it needs to be a priority. Three thoughts on creating community with other women:
1 – Don’t accept substitutes. At least, not on a regular basis. A text, Facebook message or other social media drop-in have their place, but they cannot replace genuine conversation and fellowship with others. It might seem like you are connected, or in touch, but it is not the same.
2 – Be purposeful. Don’t just hope the time will come – make it happen. Invite others – whether to your house or somewhere else. Whether for a full evening at dinner or for 20 minutes over coffee. It is surprising….if you invite them, women will (find time and) come:)
3 – Look outside your circle. All women want to be included. And, as women, we tend to flock together. There is nothing wrong with having a “bestie” or a close group, but be careful not to be exclusive. And certainly, don’t judge a book by its cover – or assume someone would not want to be included. Reach out to someone older, younger, or just “different”! Wonderful friendships have been made this way!
There are several other thoughts – encouragements for fellowship – running through my thoughts. But, five minutes fly by! How do you stay purposefully connected?